regret having kids

“Do you regret having kids, If yes, read here”

There are millions of people in this world that have different needs, different wants. They all live in different ways, experience different things, and often times lead different roles. The typical scenario type of every life is growing to become successful and starting a family; however, this is not the case of everyone. There are people who dream of getting married and there are people who don’t just like how there are people who dream of living in the city while there are some who don’t. There are some people who only want to have a child and no spouse while there are others who want both or the other. As I said, different people have different wants and needs and many who regret having kids.

As human beings, we tend to rush things, tend to sometimes not think things through. Some people rush into relationships thinking that they can handle it, not knowing of how much emotionally difficult it can be yet still go through with it. Getting into a committed relationship, like getting married, is not all what it seems to be. It is more than just what the outer scope of it is. It’s basically a new life, your new life, that you have committed yourself to through everything there is to be in it. Things will get even more complicated, the true personality of your partner will surface, and everything would get extremely emotional. Now imagine bearing a child and raising it, everything that I mentioned above will double. There are people who can commit and are ready to face all the challenges and are extremely willing to do anything for it, but there are some who don’t and are not ready for it. Now there will be tons of controversy for the “traditional” way is to raise a family, but we MUST understand that there are people out there who do not want to go through with it. The best we can do is understand and accept their decision, is that so hard? Regret is the most powerful thing that a person can feel, other than love. Regret is the worst thing a person can feel for it’s a combination of a whole LOT of pain. And when someone tends to regret something, in this case regretting ever having children, that would tend to hurt. There would be feelings like:

  • “I am not ready for this,”
  • “Why did I do this,”
  • “I am such an idiot for going through with this,”
  • “I don’t want to do this anymore,”
  • “This was a mistake,”
  • “I want to give up,” and
  • “I wish I could start over.”

All this is regret, such a negative feeling to get yet it’s about something that most people tend to want and experience. All these thoughts would be extremely dangerous for the child. The child would feel like he/she isn’t wanted and that he/she was a mistake. No one wants to feel like they’re not needed and that they’re the root of everyone’s problems. These thoughts can, eventually, lead your child to self-destruction. No matter how much you regret it, you must understand that this is not your life that you are living now but your child’s as well. Instead of filling your head with regret, why not enjoy it while it lasts. Treating your child like a friend would increase the amount of love you’ll get in your life. Trust me, there is nothing greater than the love from your very own child. Just remember, nothing ever goes as planned, nothing will always be perfect, there will always be mistakes, but always remember that everything happens for a reason.